You are the keeper of your own happiness.
Are you one of those that blames others for the situations you are in and why you are feeling the way you are? This is where you have a choice, to continue to allow others to determine how you feel or take control of your feelings and decide you will be happy.
It’s not an easy journey and there may be tears along the way but this is your choice. You are the keeper of your own happiness. You decide how your day, week, month, year will look like. Yes, there will be some sad days and obstacles along the way but how you handle it will decide if these obstacles are the end of the world or for a little bump along the road.
I cry still. When things are hard, I cry and mourn, I process my feelings and then move forward. A fight with my daughters in the morning doesn’t make my whole day horrible. Fights with kids are going to happen all the time and I would be miserable always if I let them determine how my day or week will be.
So, will the fight with your spouse over the weekend cause your week to be miserable or will you be able to move forward and know that disagreements will happen. Yes some fights are worse than others and there special circumstances. But even with the special circumstances, you can still have a life based on joy.
Once you learn how to live a life of joy, small disagreements won’t turn into large arguments. Because you realize that getting upset over small things, diminishes the joy within.
Now, just as you are the keeper of your own happiness, you are NOT the keeper of others. In a future post, I’ll talk more about this but for now, focus on you. We can not control other people but we can change ourselves. If I can make these changes, so can you.